Something strange has happened lately - Murray who is 2 next month, has always been spotlessly clean in the house but over the past 2 weeks he has weed on my bed two seperate times. The only change I can think of is that I have been quite stressed over this time due to severe work problems - I was wondering if this could have caused him stress and this is how he is reacting. Murray has always been 'all for me' and is quite a sensitive hound.

Has anyone experienced this behaviour or have any thoughts/advice? Thanks

Ben did slip up several times when he was around the same age and wee'd on the carpet. I don't think I was particularly stressed at that time but he did have some attacks from other dogs so maybe that's it or maybe it's just their age.

Hope your work stress resolves itself quickly.

Have you a bitch in season near you? Or as you said if you are out more than normal is it a separation thing he might feel insecure if you are normally at home?

If you are working more, is he getting good quality walks still? I know it is hard enough this time of year as it is, but if he isn't getting his walks, he might be suffering seperation anxiety???? or it might be because you have new additions to the house?

Never had this with Murph, he has been as clean as a whistle even as a young puppy he never did it, not even overnight.

Well Carys has just come out of her 1st season but Murray hasn't seemed bothered by this. His exercise regieme hasn't changed either - I personally think he has picked up my stress and has reacted by weeing on my bed. He is obviously not allowed in my bedroom unsupervised now and I am giving him lots of extra cuddles ect

Robb wrote:


Thanks Robb - my boss is a real bully who shouts at everyone and humiliates them so I told her straight that she was a bully and needs to examine her behaviour towards others...so..she has suspended me for gross insubordination It beggarsa belief that in this day and age people like this still think they can get away with it..

Dont react to your boss. She knows she has power over her staff and gets off on it. Even more so when she can demonstrate that power by disciplinary action..she loves it. Carry on with a smile on your face and she wont know how to deal with it...take it from me I am in "private service" to serious aristocracy and have a skin like a rhino...

Did have a dog that used to wee on the bed while I was in it and awake..gave him his own space where he felt secure and other animals couldnt go and it stopped...

So sorry to hear of your work problems, I do hope that the situation resolves itself quickly. You did well to confront the person but its such a pity that you've been suspended.

I once confronted a bullying boss and he threatened to get me sacked but luckily he didn't follow through.

If you've been suspended I guess there'll be an investigation of some sort. I do hope you've got somebody on your side with the guts to back you up.

There's also merit in Hairy's post. At the end of the day its your livelyhood thats important for both you and your dogs. You do need to think very carefully about your next move.

My next move is to find another job ASAP - this woman is unbearable and I only stepped in and told her she was a bully when she'd reduced yet another member of staff to tears. It is not acceptable to treat anyone like this so I am ready for any investigation she cares to conduct. This happened on Friday morning and I still have not had it officially confirmed why I have been suspended but at least I have had the weekend off to spend with my hounds (paid!)

I guess the best move is to find another job, it isn't good to work somewhere where you're unhappy anyway. Good luck, hope you find a new job quickly and get a long paid holiday with your dogs to hoot.

The only time Lockie ever peed in the house was when Bree was in season. Lockie would have been the same age approx. He has never done it since irrespective of seasons.

As for your work situation, maybe give her some of her own medicine and inform her that you are reporting her to your industrial action dept or whatever you have over there. It may make her rethink and pull her head in

I think houndy as far as the work side goes i would be making an appointment to see my union rep asap as for murray i would just give him time to settle down again from whatever has upset him best of luck with both.

Go off sick with work related stress for the max time pos. She can't go ahead with disciplinary matter while you are off sick, she can't bother you in any way. Return to work when refreshed and ready to fight back.

Good luck

Anne

feldandjack wrote:


Good advice there Trish. You could think about speaking to your colleagues about supporting a complaint against her to her superiors.

As far as Murray goes, it does sounds like a stress thing. Try not to over compensate and act as normal as possible towards them all. I'm sure he'll settle down as you are more chilled.

Take some time off and put your camera to good use.

I can't offer any advice Houndy except to add, make sure you clean the spot he peed on with an enzymatic cleaner to get rid of any trace of it. You don't want him or one of the others to be attracted to that area again.

I happened to mention your work issue at lunch yesterday and my brother suggested mentioning about the recent worker who commited suicide due to workplace bullying (may have been in Aust). There is a huge stance about workplace bullying now and your Industrial Relations Dept will take it seriously.

Thnak you for that and thanks for caring enough to mention it

I would just add that it would be very useful if you could catalogue instances ,and dates (where possible) of inappropriate behaviour. Jot things down as you remember them and to 'let it out'. Next try to put in calendar order. Only put exact 'facts', not opinions. Then you can forget about it and relax as it is all logged.
My Boris is also very sensitive and in to me. He is a bit sad at the moment as we have a boisterous foster dog who has taken all of Boris confidence to put in his place. At the mo he is on my bed...being above all as it were.
I read somewhere that dogs pee where their owner has slept to reinforce territory (with their owner)marking when they are a bit worried.
Mind you Boris also stands on the bed to put his head on my shoulder for a cuddle..and what a hard, strong head when he puts it under my chin...and lifts!

Have a look here www.acas.org.uk, they are really great to just to call up for some advice, and even to log issues you have had
You shouldnt have to put up with that kind of stuff at work, i hate bullies

I guess your boy is probably picking up on your worry, when i was in bed ill last month my lot were fussing around me like loonies, and mrs T wouldnt leave me alone or stop kissing me still a big cuddly DH on the bed does make you feel better when you need a snuggle

Try these people - i think theres a list as well you can join to get advice.

www.workplacebullying.co.uk/targetind.html

if your work place has a union, most places now a days do,
then ask them to help as well, as they will step in,
and be there for you,
if your work place dosent have one, you can always join one
and get help and advice, but make sure you check your work contract first
as some have put it in there contracts, that you are not allowed
to join any type of union,

hopefully once your stress levels have gone
and everthing is sorted Murray will go back to normal,
you could give him some RR to help in the mean time.